Develop The Art Of Losing Like A Champion
Learn how to turn losses into teachable moments that you can use in everyday life.
All humans need to be capable of losing and winning with dignity. Why? Because this is when someone's depth of character is revealed. No loss is simple. But failure exposes our character. It reveals our moral fortitude and establishes our reputation in society. How would you like to be recalled? Definitely not as a sore loser.
"Competition doesn't create character, it exposes it," is a common saying. A person's gameplay reveals something about their character. It all comes out in how one loses. We appreciate those who accept failure with grace. We sneer at losers who refuse to act graciously. Making excuses, whining, being silent, withdrawing, or becoming aggressive in response to a setback does nothing to improve one's character. Learning to shake hands, honestly congratulate victors, and offer praise demonstrates character, which is always more significant than success.
What are some things you can do to develop the ability to lose gracefully?
1. If you haven't already, learn how to develop humility and grace when you lose. Basically, lose like a winner. A winner's confidence is more independently established in his or her aura regardless of winning. Taking a loss like a champion will reveal that. Not only is losing gracefully a far more honorable and impressive shade to paint yourself in than a pouting sore loser, but it teaches you to win in the same manner. There is a distinction between that and losing like a loser. Still, we're not suggesting that some good, old-fashioned banter never has its place or can't be a pleasant addition to a competitive environment. You become more humble when you lose with class and consider the lessons you can learn. In case the other factors weren't motivation enough, there is undoubtedly some quiet joy in that. Of course, if your opponent is flaunting their success in your face, your humbling defeat will simply make them appear foolish.
2. Recognize honesty as a virtue in and of itself; a liberated, empowering conduit through which to express your ideas and opinions. Living honestly makes it easier to understand yourself on a deeper level than simply telling the truth; this is a crucial first step to actually attaining what you want, figuring out what you need, and letting the finest version of yourself come through.
3. To the best of your ability, prepare for disappointment and keep it contained; otherwise, you'll find yourself moping around when you should be concentrating on something constructive. There are times when it is surprisingly simple to resist giving into that gloomy, gradual descent into self-pity. Because of its very nature, self-pity can be debilitating and demoralizing if you allow yourself to fall into it. There are moments when we need to feel sorry for ourselves because it helps, and there are times when no matter what we do, we can never escape its clutches. However, there are numerous situations when it is unnecessary, counterproductive, and wholly avoidable. Self-pity can be kept in check by controlling disappointment.
4. Usually, things are not as horrible as they appear to be. The most overpowering and shocking part of an issue, crisis, or damage is frequently where it first appears. When we confront the unexpected and undesirable, we respond psychologically, emotionally, physically, or in any other way and freak out. A cool head and a quick review of the issue will often show that it is entirely controllable.
We make an effort to carry the worth of every experience with us as we navigate other life circumstances that initially appear to be terrifying, overwhelming, messy, or dreadful. These times are startling, but after we get used to them much like when we enter a cold pool we feel more at ease and calm, and we can then easily decide what to do and carry it through.